When I got cancer in 2003 there was no shortage of advice, most of it from people who’d never had cancer and most of it in the vein of “you’ve got to fight with everything you have.” I came away from the experience having learned that I don’t solve problems that way.
That brazen frontal attack on problems may be the right way to knock down barriers for another type of person. She might willing to go into battle in clinical trials and experimental treatments or visualize the cancer cells as hapless soldiers she runs over with her sheer psychic power.
But I didn’t need to rev my emotional engine further with anger, bravado and adrenaline. I was already emotionally cranked up with worry, fear and un-answerable questions. I needed to breathe. A the Kinks sang in “I’m a Lover, Not a Fighter,” “I can roar like a lion or sting like a bee but I’ve got rabbit blood in me.” As opposed to ferocious predators, my way of meeting challenges is “…having done all (I) can do, (I) stand.” (Ephesians, 6:12, NIV).
In your sewing, how do you react to problems, challenges or barriers?
THE PROBLEM: So you’re halfway through an intricate hand sewn embroidery pattern for an heirloom garment. The thread tangles in the back.
OPTION 2) Try to jerk out the tangled thread with sheer force and scissors or;
Trust me, OPTION 3 works a whole lot better.
First, flip the problem on its head!
Turn the embroidery to the back side and gently pull out each thread in the tangle. I find that if I pull the needle off the thread I can use the back (eye) end of the needle to get into the tangled “nest” of threads to pull at each individual thread. If there is a knot at the heart of the tangle you can insert the eye end into it and often you’ll disengage the knot.
Sometimes there is ball of lint at the heart of the problem. When you see it, pick it away from the threads and the knot may come undone at this point.
When you’ve untangled your knot, pull all your strands even with equal tension, cut the ends to even everything up and rethread the needle. This would be a good time to take a break from your work. When you return you’ll find a tidy project ready to go.
However, if you have the materials and the temperament, you might indeed want to try OPTION 1 and start all over again. Either option will work better than sheer force!
Sewing can be be a pleasant hobby with unique results. If you are patient enough, or willing to learn some patience, here are some tips to prevent the dreaded tangle in hand embroidery.
I’ve been cancer free for 15 years now. My surgery and chemotherapy were difficult but my greatest support came from the prayers and support of family and friends who gave me space to heal in my own way. I found that Biblical meditation, long soaking baths using minerals and essential oils and eating lots of healthy foods helped me.
People who see the beautifully embroidered collar on your blouse won’t know there was a tangle on the way any more than people who meet me know how I met my cancer challenge. In the end, its just a different kind of determination and courage.