When I got cancer in 2003 there was no shortage of advice, most of it from people who’d never had cancer and most of it in the vein of “you’ve got to fight with everything you have.” I came away from the experience having learned that I don’t solve problems that way.
That brazen frontal attack on problems may be the right way to knock down barriers for another type of person. She might willing to go into battle in clinical trials and experimental treatments or visualize the cancer cells as hapless soldiers she runs over with her sheer psychic power.
But I didn’t need to rev my emotional engine further with anger, bravado and adrenaline. I was already emotionally cranked up with worry, fear and un-answerable questions. I needed to breathe. A the Kinks sang in “I’m a Lover, Not a Fighter,” “I can roar like a lion or sting like a bee but I’ve got rabbit blood in me.” As opposed to ferocious predators, my way of meeting challenges is “…having done all (I) can do, (I) stand.” (Ephesians, 6:12, NIV).
In your sewing, how do you react to problems, challenges or barriers?
THE PROBLEM: So you’re halfway through an intricate hand sewn embroidery pattern for an heirloom garment. The thread tangles in the back.
OPTION 2) Try to jerk out the tangled thread with sheer force and scissors or;
Trust me, OPTION 3 works a whole lot better.
First, flip the problem on its head!
Turn the embroidery to the back side and gently pull out each thread in the tangle. I find that if I pull the needle off the thread I can use the back (eye) end of the needle to get into the tangled “nest” of threads to pull at each individual thread. If there is a knot at the heart of the tangle you can insert the eye end into it and often you’ll disengage the knot.
Sometimes there is ball of lint at the heart of the problem. When you see it, pick it away from the threads and the knot may come undone at this point.
When you’ve untangled your knot, pull all your strands even with equal tension, cut the ends to even everything up and rethread the needle. This would be a good time to take a break from your work. When you return you’ll find a tidy project ready to go.
However, if you have the materials and the temperament, you might indeed want to try OPTION 1 and start all over again. Either option will work better than sheer force!
Sewing can be be a pleasant hobby with unique results. If you are patient enough, or willing to learn some patience, here are some tips to prevent the dreaded tangle in hand embroidery.
I’ve been cancer free for 15 years now. My surgery and chemotherapy were difficult but my greatest support came from the prayers and support of family and friends who gave me space to heal in my own way. I found that Biblical meditation, long soaking baths using minerals and essential oils and eating lots of healthy foods helped me.
People who see the beautifully embroidered collar on your blouse won’t know there was a tangle on the way any more than people who meet me know how I met my cancer challenge. In the end, its just a different kind of determination and courage.
Sunrise through my window.
Silence in the house. Steaming coffee by my side, my journal in my lap. My shoulders are relaxed and my mind is starting to bubble with ideas, strategies and enthusiasm for the time I have ahead of me.
I’m ready to sew.
An hour later, just as I’m buzzing along with the brrrrrr of my Berrrrrnina, I feel the shoulder ache begin. Do I stop? Do I stretch? I do not. I sew and sew like some kind of crazed so-and-so and pretty soon I look like this:
This goosenecked scrunch is not a good look and it isn’t a good feeling. Here are some ways you can avoid the pain and sew (or write, or paint or cook) for as long as you want.
Google Zero Waste clothing. There’s a ton of stuff out there, right? “Zero waste clothing” is a subset of the sustainable clothing movement referring specifically to clothing manufactured with no waste.
How nice of Joost de Cock, pattern maker and philanthropist, to make this simple version available to anyone, anytime, any where at www.makemypattern.com. And at no cost! He calls it the Tokyo Top and you must just go to his fabulous website to learn more and make one for yourself.
I prance about the house feeling frisky in this slinky red ankle-length version. I also made one in a bright yellow jersey, which I use for a bathing suit coverup.
Only a small sliver of fabric is cut from this clever take on a large folded rectangle. As soon as I saw the sliver I knew it could be fashioned into an embellishment. So each of my Tokyo Tops has a jaunty flower on the shoulder. Hope you love yours as much as I do mine. Don’t forget to buy Joost a cup of coffee by donating to his site when you get there.
A time management strategy makes sense for a sewist because it makes more time for sewing. And who doesn’t want that?
Finding time to sew means you are wearing or using what you produce when you want it. It means you might have a few gifts ready for before the holidays. Yikes! If you teach, it means there’s no last minute scramble before the students walk through the door.
First, do you recognize yourself in one of these time management styles?
I sewed this way for years. I bought a specific amount of fabric to make a specific outfit, began to sew and didn’t stop until it was done. I bought no other fabric until that project was finished. Then I tidied the sewing space and didn’t start anything else until I was prepared to finish it.
PROS: This is a powerful and focussed way to Get. It. Done. This simple strategy is very zen, calming and gentle on the mind.
CONS: Now that I have more skills, more fabric, more tools and more time, I don’t like to restrict myself to the one-at-a-time method because it doesn’t allow for sudden inspiration. More on this below.
I count between a dozen and fifteen projects in various states of completion in my present sewing life.
PROS: I seldom run out of things to do or materials with which to do them. When a new idea strikes, I record it in Freedcamp then make a prototype or simply go ahead and create it.
CONS: When you have this kind of supply and stock situation, it has to be organized, stored, labelled and replenished. Because materials don’t last forever, you have to keep track of time (when did I buy this?) as well as materials. You can Google Craftybase and see what inventory programs come up. Though inventory isn’t time management, lack of inventory management will will eat your time if you don’t know what you’ve got and where to find it.
The Franklin Covey Day Planner time management system has been around for decades. Within its pre-printed pages you can record the details of your projected days and weeks in infinite detail.
PROS: If you do it right, the Day Planner provides a snapshot of where you are and where you are going. If you do it right, projects don’t fall through the cracks and they are prioritized in a way that makes sense to you and your values.
CONS: This applies to all the tracking systems, really. You can easily could lose yourself the details of recording the details. It takes time and dedication to plan, record and track projects.
I believe this is still the newest kid on the time management block. I’m experiementing with it myself, but frankly it feels more like a new hobby than management. I especially like it as a place to record ideas as mentioned above–those projects that pop in your head when you’re working on something else.
PROS: Fancy lettering and lots of pens, pencils and stencils–what’s not to like? This is a natural for creative souls.
CONS: With no pre-sets, each person is re-inventing the calendar wheel. Whereas other systems teach their clients how to use symbols and processes the Bullet Journal invites you to explore the internet and your own creativity to invent your own. To begin at the beginning: https://www.bulletjournal.com
Project management is what we’re talking about here. Conveniently enough, I’m married to a project manager and he’s taught me
because he’s an engineer and I’m a normal person and we do not speak the same language. So everything I know about project management, I learned in church. Seriously, I fill different roles in different church service areas and I found the best way to keep track has been cloud-based project management software.
Freedcamp is an Australian company that’s been keeping me organized for several years. They have a great help department (remember they’re on the other side of the world from North America, so I’ve had phone appointments at 7PM). There’s a ton of competition in the cloud-based project management arena but again, the folks at Freedcamp have treated me well for several years and I highly recommend their product and service. (Nope, I’m not compensated in any way by their organization.)
So you CAN just wing it and sew what you will when you will.
Absolutely no time spent on planning. Walk into the store (with your magic bottomless credit card), pick a pattern, buy all materials and go home and sew. If you decide to make something else on the way home, download a PDF pattern and hope you have enough tape to put 17 rows of tiles together before you have to go to work. Or just drape your mannequin and start slashing and pinning fabric. Man, it’s great to be creative!
It’s rare to finish a project well or timely under these conditions. If you’re doing your whole life this way, you probably don’t have time to sew anyway. Quickly conceived projects are often as quickly abandoned. You can watch your sewing motivation whoosh out the window when a massive mess of half-done projects are staring you down at the sewing room door.
How do you fit your sewing into your life? Are you drowning in WIP’s (works in progress) or are you cruising serenely through your planned projects? May I gently suggest you get a plan?
Making yourself the boss of your time is extremely empowering. You may even find that time management is your sewing superpower.
I’d love to hear how you are the boss of your own time or how you’d like to get there. Leave me a comment!
Anyone who’s worked in print journalism knows on some level her life’s work will end up lining the bottom of somebody’s bird cage. I accepted that as part of the ephemeral nature of daily news reporting. You could even think of it as a positive spin on the fate of the written word; at least there was a way to recycle old newspapers.
But what’s the use of the little bytes of data that have been permanently misplaced after a website cash? Old blog posts can’t even be recycled as bird-doo catchers. I’m pretty sure I’m not bitter nor philosophical about this turn of events.
Just amazed! Lookie…now you see it, now you don’t. Where did my 2016 posts go?